Dear Arthur,
I am a fairly attractive guy and fell in love and married my high school sweetheart. Over the years I have stayed in shape and kept myself up, my other half…not so much. I’m starting to get the feeling that I settled. Any suggestions!
Signed, Paul
There is something fundamentally wrong with the way society views self-image these days. Women have been reduced to 2D versions of themselves within society’s eyes, unless they fit a certain physical profile. The pressure from commercial industries for women to look a certain way has leaked into the home front. And, sadly Paul it’s rooted itself within subconscious!
Now! Not only are you pondering if you’ve settled for the woman whom you’ve loved since high school and built a life. You’re also ignoring the simple fact of life, which is that people gain weight due to childbirth, age, genetics, and even stress! If you’re stressing her about her weight gain you’re doing more harm than good!
I think it’s awesome that you’re staying in shape and working out! We all could use more of that! However, your letter said nothing about you Motivating your wife to loose weight or work out with you! It’s obvious that your example didn’t inspire her! Let’s change that!
It’s okay for someone to not be attracted to their spouse on a physical level after years of being together that’s understandable and normal, however is that reason enough to call it quits?
I think not! We all can improve our looks a bit on a physical level, but not many of us can improve our love story!
You want my advice; here it is STOP BUYING INTO WHAT SOCIETY SAYS YOUR WIFE SHOULD LOOK LIKE AND LOVE HER FOR WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE!